What do you think of when you hear the words “perfect mom”?
Maybe you imagine a mom that always has her act together. Or maybe you think of your own mom as the example of what a perfect mom should be. Most likely you probably imagine any mom but yourself. Guess what, you’re not alone.
It’s easy to think anyone has to be a better mom than us. Especially when one of the kids breaks a window and another brought home a bad report from school. Then on top of it all maybe there are still dishes in the sink, toys all over the floor, and clothes waiting to be folded.. That doesn’t feel perfect. Sometimes it feels like our world is falling apart.
What does the Bible say about being a perfect mom?
Maybe you’ve read Proverbs 31 and felt depressed by the end of it. What does God expect from us as mothers?
God didn’t have Proverbs 31 included in the Bible to make us feel bad about all the things we aren’t doing. Those verses actually free us to be all God created us to be.
This post would get to long if we looked at the entire chapter but let’s just take a look at a few verses of the mother described in Proverbs 31.
(10) Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
She is a woman that loves God and seeks to do His will. A virtuous mother is very valuable.
(11) The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. (12) She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Her husband can trust her. He knows she isn’t out to hurt him. She treats him with respect and is a wife that will not speak badly of him to his face nor behind his back.
Ladies our words are very important. Especially how we talk about our husband’s in front of our children. Do you teach your children to love their father and respect him? Or do they only hear of all the things he doesn’t do right? We need to be careful of what we are teaching our children through our words and actions. We need to build our husband’s up in front of our children, not tear them down.
(13) She seeks wool, and flax, and works willingly with her hands.
She has hobbies! Some women like to sew. Some may knit. Others may enjoy cooking or music. I personally take great delight in writing. Having a hobby can make you feel so good about your accomplishment.
Do you have a hobby you enjoy? Is there something you’ve always thought you would like to learn? It’s never too late to pick up a new hobby.
(14) She is like the merchants’ ships; she brings her food from afar.
Simply put, she shops for groceries.
(15) She rises also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
This is where we can all be grateful for the invention of slow cookers. 🙂 The bottom line is she makes sure everyone is fed.
Another way to look at this verse is by considering how many nights have we awakened to comfort a crying child. Would you feed your child a healthy snack in the middle of the night if you think they might be hungry? I know I have.
(16) She considers a field, and buys it: with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
She takes care of business. I am pretty sure most of us have done this kind of thing.
I specifically think of the time I took care of our out-of-hand trash problem. We kept having trash pile up and when there was a burn ban we couldn’t even burn our trash. There were days I filled our mini-van first with the kids and then piled bags of trash all around them to take to the waste management facility (a.k.a. the dump).
While I normally wait for my husband to solve problems this time I took matters into my own hands and found a company that would come by for a reasonable price and pick up our trash.
Was my husband upset when I told him I paid to have our trash picked up? No! On the contrary he was thankful that I took care of it.
It goes back to verse 11. My husband trusts me to take care of business when he isn’t able.
(17) She girds her loins with strength, and strengthens her arms.
She exercises. I don’t always do the best at exercising but I have found that when I do exercise I feel so much better than when I don’t. Sometimes I think women get stuck on this one because we get the wrong idea about what exercise is.
There are a lot of good ways to exercise. Some women prefer exercising at home by themselves while others prefer working out in a group setting. Exercise doesn’t have to be hard and boring. It can be fun and energizing.
(20) She stretches out her hand to the poor; yea, she reaches forth her hands to the needy.
She is generous. This doesn’t mean she gives everything away.
It means she sees a friend in need and sends them food. She hears of someone that needs clothes and she finds clothes that her children no longer wear. We may not be able to help all the time but many times we see a need and we go the extra mile to help.
(21) She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
(22) She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
This mother makes sure her children are dressed well. I’ve been through hard times and I know this can seem overwhelming to keep your kids well dressed when you are afraid to spend money.
However even during those hard financial times I’ve found ways to clothe my children. One Easter we did our Easter shopping at a local second hand thrift store. They may have been used clothes but we found some nice looking items and shoes that were like new.
(23) Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.
Her husband is able to do his work. He doesn’t have to keep an eye one what she is doing because he trusts her. Since she is managing things at home, he is able to take care of business outside the home.
(27) She looks well to the ways of her household, and eats not the bread of idleness.
She is not lazy. Now that doesn’t mean we can’t take breaks or sleep. On the contrary we need to take care of ourselves. But we shouldn’t sit around all day just watching t.v. or spending all our time mindlessly playing or talking on Facebook.
We need to make sure we take care of our children and family first and then make time for the fun things later.
(28) Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.
Even though we may not be the “perfect” mom, our children know we love them by the things we say and do. In the end we are still their mother and they will return our love. They may not realize all we do for them now but one day they will speak highly of our efforts.
Today be encouraged. You’re doing a good job, Mom!
Have you ever felt like a Proverbs 31 woman? Do you have a mom story you would like to share with us?
We would love for you to share them with us in the comments. We love to hear from you.
For more on parenting I highly recommend Jayna Coppedge’s book “Parenting with the End in Mind: Practical Guidance with Biblical Principles“.
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