It is very hard to be a parent in society today, but I would have to say it’s even harder to be a father. We have all these expectations and molds that men should meet in the workforce, in our households, and even in the church. We seem to lose sight of the One who created the mold, and instead we try to force men to produce behaviors that we anticipate them to produce on their own without any explanation or guidance as to why they should. Even worse, if they don’t fit our cookie cutter mold, we write them off or throw them out. The generation we live in is now called “The Fatherless Generation.”
In 2012 The Washington Times published an article titled “Fathers Disappear from Households Across America.” The article stated that one in three children live in a home without fathers.
Is it social class, race, demographics, finances, education, or the fact that no one is holding marriage in high regard? Some women interviewed had husbands living in their homes and still felt as if they were single parents because of the lack of their spouse’s involvement in their children’s daily activities, though they recognized their spouses as great providers.
One woman wanted more involvement from the government, nonprofit organizations, prisons, and churches. She seemed to believe that a program or resource could fix an issue that was stemming from a matter of someone’s heart rather than their circumstance. We can’t simply demand for behavior to change without a heart change. It’s not fair for us to demand something from these fathers that they may have not ever seen displayed. We all are a product of the homes we grew up in. Some of us may have had phenomenal fathers. Some of us did not. We have either chosen to continue the behaviors we have seen as children or we have chosen not to.
He followed the example of his father, worshiping the same idols his father had worshipped. 2 Kings 21:21 NLT
No matter how wonderful our fathers were, they were not perfect. There is only one perfect image of who a Father is, and that’s God the Father. For some of you it may be hard to view God the Father in this way because your earthly father was very painful, neglectful, or dangerous. I want you to know that I am truly sorry if that is the case, and that is not who God the Father is.
And don’t address anyone here on earth as “Father,” for only God in heaven is your Father. Matthew 23:9
God the Father is the perfect example of what our earthly fathers should reflect. He is so many different things to us, and more than what our human minds and hearts can comprehend.
Have you been formally introduced to your real Father?
God is Father. Romans 8:15 refers to the Spirit crying out to Him as “Abba, Father,” which is similar to “Daddy” in the Aramaic language.
God is Good. Psalm 136:1
God is Love. 1 John 4:8
God is Elohim (“Strength”). Genesis 17:7, 8
God is Jehovah-jireh (“Provider”). Genesis 22:9-14
God is Jehovah-shalom (“Peace”). Judges 6:16-24
God is Holy. Revelation 4:8-11
God is Jehovah-rophe (“Healer”). Exodus 15:22-26
God is Just. Psalm 75:1-7
God is Sovereign. 1 Chronicles 29:11-13
God is Faithful. Psalm 89:1-8
My list of who God is can go on and on and is found all throughout scripture. Does this list look different from the father you experienced on Earth? I would say it would have to. Instead of coming down so harshly on men in our society, we should be encouraging them to meet their Heavenly Father, and not just for salvation. We should be encouraging them to meet with Him daily for provision and guidance.
Whatever your home or custody situation, I totally understand that some women have to take on the “father” role. I am now a single mother, and grateful that God has blessed my children with a wonderful father. There are days I have to do my best to be what Dad is when he can’t be present, or when it is our children’s scheduled day with me.
Ladies, being a father isn’t only about providing income for your children. God does way more for His children than provide for their physical needs. God the Father never turns his back on His children. He’s there to walk with us from birth to death, and all the days and moments in between. Maybe you have never gotten to experience a personal relationship with your earthly Father. There is a Heavenly Father who longs to meet with you daily. He longs to have a meaningful and purposeful relationship with you. He already knows so much about you, and He knows your worth. All He is waiting for is for you to cry out, “Daddy.” He’s waiting to hear from you. Maybe you know Him but He has placed someone on your heart for you to pray for. Pray for that father, and instead of merely advising him, just start pointing him to his Heavenly Father.
What father can you pray for?
Have you met your Heavenly Father?
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