Sometimes I am a terrible one. I should share more scripture. I should share less scripture. I should pray more. I should get on my knees more. I need to hug more. I have said many times, “As long as you live in my house, you go to church.” But then I don’t want to push him away from church, so I just have to eat my words and let him sleep in—after all, he is 22.
I wonder many times if I could have been a better mom or should I have done something different. Then I look at my beautiful daughters and see them raising their children and realize I must have gotten something right. I am proud of all of our kids and now I see them growing into young adults, living and making their own choices.
All these things however, fly through my head, confusing me as to how to be a good mom, a godly mom.
How about you?
Do you ever feel like a guilty mom instead of a godly mom?
Searching through scripture to write this post, I discovered some secrets from some godly mothers. Let’s take a look at a few of them.
Seek God. Acknowledge where your help comes from.
Eve was the first mother on earth. After giving birth to Cain, “She said, ‘With the help of the Lord I have brought forth a man.’” Genesis 4:1
Eve knew that she could have never had a child or raised that child to manhood without the help of the Lord.
No matter what you are facing, God wants to help you. He sees your tears and your fears. He knows when you are hurt. God understands how difficult life is. Jesus came to earth and He felt pain, discouragement and disappointment. Jesus cried human tears. Where did Jesus go to get help? He went to God.
Thank God. Accept your blessings.
Eve was blessed with more children and she knew they were a gift from God because she stated, “God has granted me another child in place of Abel, since Cain killed him.” Genesis 4:25
At times we are so focused on the pain that we forget to acknowledge the blessings God provides. Take your eyes off how difficult raising children can be and enjoy the sweet gifts God has blessed you with. One day you will be sitting in an empty house and your children will be gone. Kids grow so quickly. Take each day and look at them like they are a blessing instead of wishing they would hurry up and grow up or that they would be quiet and quit screaming.
Eve lost a son, but once she took her eyes off the pain she was free to focus on the son God had granted her to love and cherish.
Approach God in Prayer.
“In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the Lord, weeping bitterly.” 1 Samuel 1:10
Have you ever cried so hard you were sobbing? I know I have. I was a mom with two young children and my husband and I were getting a divorce. I didn’t understand why God wouldn’t just fix it. I had faith that He could. So I prayed. And I prayed.
God may not always answer our prayers the way we want Him to or think He should, but He does hear us and He is working everything out for good.
This is what God did for Hannah in the Bible. She wept and prayed that He would give her a baby and He answered her prayers.
Prayer is the absolutely most important part of being a godly mom. It is our connection to God. His connection back to us is when we listen to what He says.
Listen to God through the Bible.
“Go now, write it on a tablet for them, inscribe it on a scroll, that for the days to come it may be an everlasting witness.” Isaiah 30:8
One way we listen to God is by opening His Word. God connects with us through prayer, and when we open the Bible, He speaks to us through scripture.
For years after I asked Jesus to come into my life I wanted to have what Christians call a “quiet time” with God, but it was so hard trying to find that time while raising little ones. We make it more difficult and legalistic than we need to.
I absolutely love journaling and writing down my prayers to God. I will find a scripture verse, either through a book I’m reading or a devotional, then open the Bible and read the whole chapter. I try to write down the verses that stand out to me and write what they mean to me. I may question God and ask Him more about what He means and keep digging deeper to try to discover more. This is my favorite time of the day. This is how God speaks to me daily. This, along with prayer, church and godly friends, helped change my life after I said that prayer 22 years ago, asking Jesus to be my Savior and to forgive me of my sins.
Serve God daily.
“And while they were there, the time came for her baby to be born. She gave birth to her firstborn son. She wrapped him snugly in strips of cloth and laid him in a manger, because there was no lodging available for them.” Luke 2:6-7
Mary was the first to serve our Lord Jesus. After all, she was His mom. From the day He was born she served Him, from wrapping Him in strips of cloth (swaddling Him) to cooking His meals as He grew, making His clothes, and teaching Him.
As we strive to be both a good and godly mom, we need to make sure we are scheduling time for serving our Lord Jesus Christ.
“ But be sure to fear the Lord and serve him faithfully with all your heart; consider what great things he has done for you.” 1 Samuel 12:24
Share God with others.
“The woman left her water jar beside the well and ran back to the village, telling everyone, ‘Come and see a man who told me everything I ever did! Could he possibly be the Messiah? So the people came streaming from the village to see him.” John 4:28-30
Moms, are we running and telling our friends what God has done for us? One way to grow in our walk and faith with the Lord is by telling others. There are plenty of ways to do this. You can share a scripture on Facebook (not intimidating), or you can invite a girlfriend out to lunch and have girl talk (we need more of this). If you want to be bolder, why not invite a few girlfriends over and facilitate a Bible study so you all can grow as women in the Lord.
Glorify God and reveal His glory.
We are made to bring God glory.
“Not to us, Lord, not to us but to your name be the glory, because of your love and faithfulness.” Psalm 115:1
“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” 1 Cor 10:31
God loves us and we are called to bring Him glory in everything we do for His glory. Yikes! There are plenty of times I did things for me instead of Him. I don’t get it right. I fall short. Forgive me, Lord.
Aren’t we thankful God has more than one chance for us? There is no perfect mother in the Bible or anyone who has ever lived that always brought glory to God.
But we can strive daily to do all things for His glory and honor. The main word here is STRIVE. Defined through Google as to “make great efforts to achieve or obtain something.”
Maybe you aren’t where you wish you were, and you know that sometimes the harder you try, the more distractions you experience. That’s normal. Just as God is drawing you closer to Him, Satan is fighting against Him, trying to whisper in your ear with lies to keep you from becoming all God wants you to be.
Keep your focus on Jesus.
You’re doing great.
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