We thought you might like her chair,” my mom stated. I was touched and told her we would. This floral wingback chair had special meaning, but not more than the woman who sat in it every day for the last few years of her life, one of my mom’s dearest friends, Evelyn.

I loved God’s plan for Evelyn in our family’s life. She started out as the manager of my mom’s team in Tupperware and helped coach my mom to amazing success in business, but her impact went further than that. Evelyn was a woman of wisdom.

Simple Definition of wisdom by Merriam Webster

  • knowledge that is gained by having many experiences in life

  • the natural ability to understand things that most other people cannot understand

  • knowledge of what is proper or reasonable : good sense or judgment0

Evelyn was 29 years older than my mom but age was of no issue in their friendship. Always positive and calm, always encouraging, she was a woman of faith. My brother and I wouldn’t play with toys when we went to Evelyn’s home to visit, even at ages seven and ten. We thoroughly enjoyed sitting and listening to her stories, and many times we laughed until the tears rolled. Like a moth to a flame we were drawn to her wisdom. Evelyn told stories of her husband Bob, her boys, and her trips with Tupperware, and each one always offered a life lesson. When we were teenagers we valued her opinion and loved going places with her. We used to go to a great restaurant that Evelyn affectionately called the “raisin haven” because it was where many older people went. By society’s standards, white-haired Evelyn was older, but she didn’t believe that! Her love, positive attitude and spirit kept her mind young forever.

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Her words of wisdom included, “You should always shop on carpet,” for she knew that the nicer dresses were found in the carpeted areas of a department store, and “If I can’t eat it or wear it, I don’t need it”; however, she loved to go out to lunch and nothing tickled her more than shopping, which we did often, from finding her a new car to helping find my prom and wedding dresses with my parents! But it wasn’t just her words that drew us to her wisdom, it was the core of the great person she was. Evelyn took a genuine interest in people, and even though I was young, she always took an interest in what I had to say or what I was doing. She had faith in the Lord; however, she never preached about it, but lived a life that showed it. She went to church almost every Sunday except Easter and Christmas, saying, “I don’t go those times due to the Holly-Lily bunch (the people who go to church twice a year), because it’s crowded and my seat is always taken.” She didn’t say this with condemnation or malice, just logic, and watched church on television at home those weeks.

Evelyn’s mind was sharp but eventually her body started to give out, and she spent a lot of time in her floral wingback chair. When my husband John and I found out we expecting our first child, Evelyn told my mom that she needed something to focus on (other than her health) and that she was going to sit and pray for our unborn child every day. Her specific prayer was that our child would be a blessing and a joy to others. How humbled and delighted we were that she would spend her days doing this. Our daughter, McKenna, was born and Evelyn got to meet the child she had been praying for.

ev-and-darcy-3When McKenna was about ten months old, Evelyn passed away. There was a celebration of life for her as she never wanted a sad funeral.  She knew she was going home to the Lord, and that was joy.

Our daughter has been the joy and blessing to others that Evelyn prayed for. When anyone tells me McKenna is a joy or blessing, I think of Evelyn’s prayers and smile, knowing that it wasn’t by accident and that God deserves all of the glory.  

You were also known before you were born as Psalm 139:13 states…For You created my inmost being, You knit me together in my mother’s womb.  Your amazing attributes aren’t by chance and God deserves the praise. Psalm 139:14 I praise You because I am wonderfully and fearfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well

How selflessly our friend petitioned God for our unborn child, in a perfect example of a woman filled with the Holy Spirit. I know of another woman of wisdom filled with the Holy Spirit who did the same thing, in Luke 1:39-45:

Mary Visits Elizabeth

39 At that time Mary got ready and hurried to a town in the hill country of Judea, 40 where she entered Zechariah’s home and greeted Elizabeth. 41 When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit. 42 In a loud voice she exclaimed: “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the child you will bear! 43 But why am I so favored, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? 44 As soon as the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby in my womb leaped for joy.45 Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!”  New International Version (NIV)

Elizabeth selflessly prayed blessings over Mary’s unborn baby, our Savior.  Since Elizabeth and Evelyn were both older women we could say that with age comes wisdom.   More importantly I believe that wisdom comes from listening to the nudge and perfect guidance of the Holy Spirit. Elizabeth and Evelyn were blessed with both. When you believe in Jesus and His selfless act of dying on the cross for your sins, when you declare Him your Lord and Savior, you are filled with the Holy Spirit. What a blessing that there is no age limit for accepting it.  Ask God today for  the wisdom.  Not sure how?  Find a friend who does and ask them to pray with you. 

That day my mom called and asked if we’d like Evelyn’s floral wingback chair, we felt blessed. The chair is in McKenna’s room and is a reminder of the wisdom of a great woman of faith and her sweet prayers that would affect a generation to come. Her legacy makes me search my heart every day to see what I am offering from my chair.

Tell me in the comment section about a woman of wisdom who has impacted your life.

Ask God Today Ministries has decided to make a difference in as many seniors’ lives as possible. We will be collecting items that elderly persons may need in “Senior Bags of Love,” which we will be distributing in the inner city of Spartanburg County in December to selected number of people in need, and we could use your help.

Here’s what we’re looking for to get started:sheets-72155_1280-jpg-pixabay

Depend diapers
Bedroom shoes
Light bulbs
Shoes of all sizes

You can mail items to:
Brenda McGraw

P.O. Box 161625,
Boiling Springs, SC 29316

Thank you for helping us reach out to seniors in need!

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About Darcy Cottone

I am Darcy Cottone, a Christian speaker and writer. I like to share my unique view of the world and the Gospel message through humor, drama and scripture. I am in awe over the fact that the very same God who spoke to Abraham and Moses is the same God who cares about every detail of my life and yours. I am a wife and mother of two – roles that I cherish, but roles I am convinced God placed in my life because He knew I would cling to Him for help every step of the way! I bring a wide range of experiences to my writing as I grew up a small town farm girl turned city girl and have worked in various jobs including corporate training and managing my family’s furniture store. Ten years ago I figured out that serving in ministry and sharing the love of Christ (through volunteering, serving on staff or speaking), was the one job I never tired of. Any time I speak I pray that God merely uses me as the conduit for His message. Since then I have come to know that God’s mercies are new each morning and giddy is the way I describe how I feel when I witness His perfect unfailing love. Connect with me on Facebook or visit my webpage if you are looking for a speaker for your next women’s event.
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