When was the last time you needed some girlfriend time? Did you get it? Or did it make you feel lonelier because no one was there for you?
Most of you probably know what I’m talking about.
The need for girlfriends began way back in our school days. Girls need to talk and be heard.
Face it, ladies, females talk more than males every single day and we need each other to talk to.
My first real girlfriend was in first grade and we were next door neighbors. Her name was Anne. I remember playing in the yard together, in our basement and in each other’s bedrooms. My memory is mostly of her being kind of bossy to me, like a lot of little girls can do, but we were BEST friends. Even when we would have a little girl fight, we would always make up. Anne and I were friends into adulthood and she even married a guy I went to school with in a different state. We were separated in the second grade when my dad got transferred from Hickory, NC to Decatur, GA and then on to South Carolina.
One day my doorbell rang (ding-dong) when I was in my first year of college and there stood Anne at my front door with Brad, a guy friend from my high school. They met in college in North Carolina and later got married. Anne and I stayed friends a few years after we both got married and then she went through a divorce. I am saddened to say that later she committed suicide.
I have had other long-lasting girlfriends even though we were separated by distance. When we would get back together even after a span of time had gone by, it was as if we were never separated.
It’s a bond.
God gave us emotions and words. These two things together would allow females to connect and understand each other.
“We love sitting across the table from a good girlfriend and sharing our heart, our happiness, our health, our healing, our hard times and our help.
How can we be better friends? Who needs you to reach out to her? Here are a few things I thought of.
- Call your friends, don’t just text them.
- Spend time. Spend a two-hour lunch with them.
- Listen more than you talk.
- Cards. Send your girlfriend a card to let her know you are thinking of her.
- Visit. Go see them at their house.
- Laugh with them.
- Clean their house for them when they are overwhelmed.
- Cook a meal for them.
- Don’t quit on them. They may just be going through a hard time.
- Walk. Go for a walk together.
- Show up. Don’t just say you are thinking of them, show them.
- Pray with them.
Ladies, I really want to thank you all for coming to Ask God Today Ministries and reading this post. Whether this is the first time you have ever been to this website or you visit often, or maybe you are on our email list and you read our posts frequently, I am thankful for you.
I want to challenge you to take a few minutes this week and take one or two tips from above and reach out to a girlfriend. Maybe you haven’t seen her in a while. I hope you will make an effort to say hello.
Or possibly you have a girlfriend whom you hang out with a lot.
- Be thankful for her and do whatever you can to hang onto that relationship.
- Don’t ever take it for granted.
- Be wise and careful with your words.
- Make sure that you value her secrets, just like you want her to value yours.
- Stay away from gossip or tearing anybody down with your words.
- Pray regularly for each other.
- To have a friend, we have to be a friend.
- If you don’t have a good girlfriend, pray that the Lord would bring you someone whom you can do life with. If no one reaches out to you, be the hands and feet of Jesus and reach out to someone.
“Greater love has no one than this,
that one lay down his life for his friends.”
We need each other. Thanks for being my friend! I need you. I care about you.
I know God has good things for you.
Seek and search for our good, good God.
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Do you have a girlfriend story you would like to share or another tip to be a good girlfriend? We would love to hear from you in the comments.
Last November we began planning our upcoming conference.
We would love to have you attend our first annual Women’s Conference on June 24-25, 2016 with special recording artist Mike Weaver from Big Daddy Weave.
Hope to see you there!
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