What if you don’t feel happy today? I understand.
I have felt unhappy before.
I remember my first Thanksgiving at home without my children’s father living with us. It didn’t feel like a happy time.
I have however, felt happiness as well. The next year, choosing to not sit home without him, my children and I headed to Florida to spend Thanksgiving with my parents and family. I made a choice to find joy beyond my circumstances.
The holidays can at times make us sad or upset.
Perhaps we have lost a loved one and the holidays flood us with tears of pain or emotions. Or this is the first year you have been without a spouse or a child because of an unwanted separation or divorce. It’s just hard to feel happy. I get it.
This too shall pass. There is joy beyond. (I share more about how to find joy beyond in my book, Joy Beyond).
We can’t confuse happiness with joy.
We can have joy without being happy.
Joy is being filled with an unexplainable contentment that can only come from a power beyond anything from this world. Jesus is that power, and the power of Jesus blesses the journeys, which bring pain, but don’t defeat us because Jesus is in them. This is where we discover joy is not happiness, but is possible.
To be “happy” is feeling or showing pleasure or contentment. To feel, by definition, is an experience (an emotion or sensation).
We can control our emotions. We may not think so at times, but we really can.
We need more laughter in our world! We need more happiness. Don’t you agree?
Solomon, the man known as the wisest who ever lived, shared this truth in Ecclesiastes 7:14:
“When times are good, be happy;
but when times are bad, consider this:
God has made the one as well as the other.
Therefore, no one can discover anything
about their future.”
Take heart, there are good and bad times. The same God brings us both.
God wants to see you content. He does want you to be happy, even when at times we question it. More than that, however, God wants to see you glorify Him.
God designs good and prosperous days. These are days for which we should give thanks to the Giver and rejoice in our hearts. Treasure and hold tight those happy days, keep them close to your heart.
Enjoy prosperity while you can and enjoy God’s favor as He gives. Happiness and laughter ease stress and bring health.
But remember, the sunshine will not always last; days of rain and storms are inevitable. Be prepared to make a choice of joy. Prepare your heart during those times to seek what makes you smile.
Today as you sit around the table and thank God for your blessings, remember that you can choose to be happy.
Just as we can choose joy, we can choose happiness.
Surround yourself with people who make you laugh, or if you don’t have such a person in your life, choose a comedy to watch.
Inspiration can be found everywhere.
“A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.”
Make a baby laugh, play with an animal, Google funny quotes or videos on www.buzzfeed.com.
You can be happy.
At times it may only be temporary, but we can make an honest effort to change our feelings to include much more cheer, bliss, gladness, and joy in our lives.
Submit to God’s will and trust Him.
Be happy! Be thankful.
- Pray! Ask God to reveal His plan to you.
- Rejoice always. In the good and the bad times.
- Trust God for good plans.
- Focus on Jesus and seek His word.
- Memorize scripture by praying His word.
- Think happy thoughts and think on things that are good.
Put the “Happy” back into yours or someone else’s Thanksgiving this year! Leave suggestions on how to do this in the comments.
Brenda and the AGTM team
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