Here we are just two days from Christmas. Are you excited or have you already been disappointed? Sometimes, we set ourselves up with great expectations and then fall victim to disappointment. My hopes are that you will keep your eyes on Jesus during this wonderful time of the year and my promise is that He will never disappoint you. Please join me in welcoming Trina Matous to our site today. Leave her some Christmas love in the comments. Thanks.



Celebrating Christmas—Excitement or Disappointment?
By Trina Bresser Matous

I grew up in a fairly large extended family. My grandparents had five children and twenty grandchildren. Christmas was always a fun celebration with lots of aunts, uncles, cousins, and of course, my grandparents. Laughter, excitement and joy filled the day and spilled over into the entire week. We exchanged Christmas gifts, ate good food and gathered around the piano for sing-alongs. As my grandparents aged, one of the three children in the area would host Christmas. The house had changed, but the laughter and fun had not.

Then one year my grandmother died, followed the next year by my grandfather. I distinctly remember the first year the families all decided to have their own Christmas celebrations. I sat at our dining room table with my parents and siblings, whom I saw everyday, and thought, “This is it?” That year was a disappointing let down. And it seems many Christmases after that have been disappointing. For twenty some years I’ve thought if I could go to sleep the day before Thanksgiving and wake up New Year’s Day, I would avoid a lot of heartache.

I’ve been challenged in recent years to change my focus at this time of year. I know that Christmas is about celebrating Jesus’ birth and the resulting salvation He brings because of His life on earth. Still, it’s been hard to refocus enough to avoid the disappointment I always seem to experience.

Here are four things I’ve found helpful.

  • Read an Advent devotional. I’m working my way through an advent devotional. The short passages often verbalize an aspect of Jesus’ life or God’s love that I had not thought of before. As I spend time meditating on the truth presented I gain greater appreciation for how much God loves me, and see Christmas in a new light.
  • Expect what is rather than what I wish would be. When I live in the expectation that every Christmas will be like my childhood Christmases, I set myself up for disappointment. My grandparents are no longer here; my cousins have families of their own to celebrate with and in several cases are even the grandparents themselves! When I anticipate the new ways of celebrating with in-laws, college age nephews, and a quiet house, I live much closer to the reality I will experience and my disappointment begins to fade.
  • Be thankful. A large portion of the world lives with much greater concerns than whether they have an exciting Christmas. Some of those concerns are very basic: where their next meal will come from and where they will find clean drinking water. Other concerns are immediately life changing or even life threatening: how to avoid being raped or sold into slavery, where to flee or how to live in the ongoing conflict that has completely disrupted their lives. Still other concerns involve finding a job that will support the family, going through a foreclosure, rebuilding after a devastating natural disaster, or dealing with a terminal illness. Not only are none of those my concerns, I’ve never even come close to living through any of them. As I celebrate the birth of the world’s Savior–- my Savior–-it helps to remember His birth is not the only thing I’m thankful for during this season.
  • Remember that no gift I will be given will ever match the gift I have already received. The gulf between who God is and who I am is so great that I have absolutely no hope of bridging the chasm by myself. God, solely in His mercy and grace, has given me a gift that leads to fulfillment in this life and eternity with Him in the next life. There is nothing any human can give me that ever comes close to matching that gift. As I remember this truth, it helps to give me a proper perspective on Christmas. Christmas was never meant to be about how I feel, how much fun I have, the excitement I experience or even the gifts I receive. Those things are not bad in and of themselves, but when I allow them to take the place of the real gift, I inevitably set myself up for disappointment. When I focus on the real reason we celebrate Christmas, my disappointment is minimized and my heart is filled to overflowing with gratitude, appreciation and a desire to worship God, who has given me life beyond anything I could have imagined. Trina2

As you look toward Christmas, what is your attitude? Are you filled with anticipation and excitement? Or do you experience dread and disappointment? Or maybe you experience something completely different. Please comment below. I’d love to hear your thoughts and the steps you take to ensure Christmas is a joyous celebration.

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Trina’s bio:    

Trina Matous

Trina Matous

Trina has a Masters of Arts in Christian Ministry from Ashland Theological Seminary and is a passionate Bible teacher and writer. For over 20 years, she has shared Biblical truths in compelling and memorable ways as a Bible study leader and a member of the Restorative Prayer Team at her church. Her three week, 2,400 mile trip through Turkey in a rental car visiting historic sites including Istanbul, Ephesus, Cappadocia, Haran and Antioch, as well as two trips to Israel’s holy sites bring reality to Trina’s teaching and writing. Trina is the author of Paul’s Letters to the Early Church and The Epistles of James, Peter, and Jude, the first two releases in the Christian Living Bible Study Series. Additionally, Trina is an avid birder, loves to cook, travel, work in her garden, and knit, especially lace. She and her husband live in Grosse Pointe Park, Michigan. To learn more about Trina, click here.
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Brenda McGraw is the founder of Ask God Today Ministries where a team of writers share hope and truth with others. She has a God-given dream to reach the masses with the gospel of Christ. Brenda is an author and speaker who reveals how to discover joy beyond the clutter of life. She draws from her own life experiences in the #1 Amazon Best seller,“Joy Beyond, 28 Days to Finding Joy Beyond the Clutter of Life”. She has two new books released. Finished, Top Ten Steps to Finish Writing a Book and Living Uncluttered, An Abundant Life Bible Study. Brenda lives in South Carolina with her husband, Jeff and one of their five children. She is a survivor of breast cancer and a heart attack. Despite the challenges she has endured, Brenda found peace through her relationship with Jesus Christ.
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