“Are you longing for the next season in your life?  Many of us fail to recognize that the best moments are the ones happening right now.” Jeff Goins, “The In-Between: Embracing the Tension Between Now and the Next Big Thing”



I Never Thought it Would Happen to Me. 

Divorced after 23 years.  Sad and thinking, “I am a Christian, this isn’t supposed to happen to me.”  How shameful I felt.  I asked God, “Why me Lord?”  “Why didn’t you heal my marriage, I know you can God.”  I would ask God, “What am I supposed to do now?”  “I don’t understand.”  These were some of the questions I would ask God while praying. 

I cried everyday for a year and half,  lifting my tears to the Lord and asking Him, “please don’t let all of this be in vain.”   I had only been walking with the Lord for about seven years when my marriage fell apart due to my first husband’s addiction to drugs and immorality.  During this seven years my faith had grown and I had a real hunger for the Lord. 

“The In Between Time!”

It was during the time after my first husband left and the time I met my current husband, where I heard God’s voice and His calling in my life.  This was my “In Between time”.  Now, I knew God had a plan for me and I trusted His plan.  I knew I had done everything I could do to try to save my first marriage.  But I learned how God gives us all a free will to make choices, good or bad, in our lives.  He doesn’t force His will on us. 

So, all of a sudden after 23 years of marriage I found myself all alone with two young children.  I had no desire at first to remarry.  But as time passed I found myself lonely.  God instills in us a desire for companionship, so as time passed month after month I started having the desire to meet someone.  One thing I desired was for God to bring His best, if He ever had anyone else for me.  Three years later God introduced me to my husband and a year and half later we were married.  He was God’s best for me. 

During this in between time, God taught me many lessons and revealed Himself to me in ways I had not experienced before.  He taught me total dependence on Him.  He taught me to trust Him even when I didn’t understand.  I prayed scripture and learned to apply God’s Word to my life.  He became my everything.  

Waiting on His Promises!

After my first husband left, I continued to walk with the Lord and attend Bible studies.  I prayed and read a lot.  One of the books I read was called “Lady in Waiting: Becoming God’s Best While Waiting For Mr. Right.” by Jackie Kendall.  This helped me realize, if I wanted God to bring me His best one day, I needed to become the best I could be.  So, I started working on me, by focusing on the Lord and studying God’s Word and praying.  It was truly the air that I breathed. 

 I discovered through all my quiet time, I had the desire to one day have someone special in my life again.  I didn’t want to go through life single.  But, I was willing to do whatever God had planned for me.  God’s plans are always better than our plans.

 “Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” (Psalm 27:14 NIV)

During the Interim.

The interim is the in between time when we are waiting on God to fulfill His promises.  We are called to wait on God to bring forth His plans for us. 

What we do during the “wait time” is as important as what you are expecting or anticipating.  Many times we can get lazy, selfish or have the feeling of entitlement.  We can let ourselves get down in the dumps or depressed during the wait times. 

I went through a period of crying out to God on my knees.  When I would bow before my Savior every night before bed, tears would flow.  My heart was broken; it had been ripped apart by the death of my marriage.  I cried and asked God to heal my heart, to take my brokenness and use it in someway.  God is faithful.

 “Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; …(Psalm 37:7a NIV)

God’s Best!

 We all go through times of waiting.  Whether it is for God to bring someone special in your life or for a new career.  Maybe, you are waiting on a promotion or God’s timing for a ministry opportunity.  Whatever it is you are waiting for, God has a plan and a purpose.  We are by nature impatient people.  We want what we want, and we want it now.  Therefore, we rush into things, jobs or even relationships too quickly, leaving us with discontentment.  God will allow you to take the wrong job or get into the wrong relationship.  He is not going to force His will on you.  He gives you free will to make your own choices.  These decisions could even be good, but good isn’t always BEST. 

Are you Waiting?

Here are a few things I learned in my In Between time.  Doing the following helped me keep my eyes on Jesus and not on my expectations and desires.  They helped me wait patiently for God’s plan and His best for me.

1.       Abide in Him.  Spend time with the Lord in His Word.  Seek The Lord for every choice you make.  Abide means to stay, to remain, “to bear patiently.” 

2.   Pray continuously and passionately.  Bow to the One who can bring you His best and can change your circumstances.  He is the One who holds the whole world in His hands, including your life.  Pray with passion, praising and glorifying our precious Father in Heaven.  Persevere in prayer.

3.   Persist in God’s presence.  Do what you can to keep your mind filled up with more of the Lord.  Spend time in Church, around other believers, reading His Word and Christian books, praying, listening to Christian music, and stay in the presence of God.

4.   Wait expectantly on the Lord.  Wait on God’s timing and God’s best for your life.  Don’t settle for good when you can have the best. 

There is a song, called “While I’m Waiting” by John Waller that says it well.  He says:

“I’m waiting

I’m waiting on You, Lord

And I am hopeful

I’m waiting on You, Lord

Though it is painful

But patiently, I will wait

I will move ahead, bold and confident

Taking every step in obedience

While I’m waiting

I will serve You

While I’m waiting

I will worship

While I’m waiting

I will not faint

I’ll be running the race

Even while I wait

I’m waiting

I’m waiting on You, Lord

And I am peaceful

I’m waiting on You, Lord

Though it’s not easy

But faithfully, I will wait

Yes, I will wait

I will serve You while I’m waiting

I will worship while I’m waiting

I will serve You while I’m waiting

I will worship while I’m waiting on You, Lord”

Waiting in Obedience!

God has a plan.  He loves you and He wants to bring you His best and give you what is best for you.  Sometimes. what is best for someone else is not the best for us.  We have to be able to discern God’s plan for us.  The only way to do this is by being obedient to the Lord and study His Word and pray asking Him to show us His will for our lives.  This requires obedience.  God is faithful.  Trust His hand and His heart!  He has the perfect plan and when you receive His best you will be grateful you waited.

Ask God Today:

1.       To help you walk in obedience with His plan.

2.       To give you a hunger for His Word.

3.       To help you be patient while you wait on His best for you.

      Jeff Goins is an Author and the Founder of Tribewriters.  He is making a difference in the lives of others through his writing and his teaching.   His book, The In-Between Time is now available to order.

I would love to hear what you have been waiting for God to do for you or if you have a story of God bringing you His best please leave me a comment.

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About Brenda McGraw

Brenda McGraw is the founder of Ask God Today Ministries where a team of writers share hope and truth with others. She has a God-given dream to reach the masses with the gospel of Christ. Brenda is an author and speaker who reveals how to discover joy beyond the clutter of life. She draws from her own life experiences in the #1 Amazon Best seller,“Joy Beyond, 28 Days to Finding Joy Beyond the Clutter of Life”. She has two new books released. Finished, Top Ten Steps to Finish Writing a Book and Living Uncluttered, An Abundant Life Bible Study.

Brenda lives in South Carolina with her husband, Jeff and one of their five children. She is a survivor of breast cancer and a heart attack. Despite the challenges she has endured, Brenda found peace through her relationship with Jesus Christ.